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Job Searching Mother Says She ‘Feels Like a Failure,’ and LinkedIn Had Her Again

September 2, 2020
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Finding a new job is never fun. When you put the pressure on home schooling your little ones amid a pandemic and mass recession, you have a personal storm.

One British mom voiced her concern about finding a job on LinkedIn and how she felt like a complete failure - and we've all been there. Abigail Flynn, a mother of two boys, was released in June and has been looking for her next marketing opportunity ever since. Her heartbreaking, raw contribution highlighted exactly how painful unemployment can be.

“I think the worst part of looking for a job right now is feeling unable to support my family. Because I am not even able to get a role that I know I can do perfectly and (sic) in fact probably overqualified.

“Like a failure for my husband who works so hard to keep us going financially.

“Like a failure for my boys, who keep telling me that they are proud of me, that I worked so hard to get a new role.

“Like a failure to my mother that I promised my father, I would always take care of it.

“I'm usually so positive, but I feel like I'm failing everyone I love. I really hope the tide will turn soon ... ”Abigail wrote.

We feel this mother's pain. Fortunately, her congregation showed up exactly how she needed it. Nearly 500 users stepped in to let Abigail know she is not alone, and that's what every parent needs to see today.

“So many of us understand and appreciate exactly how you feel! We do not always have the courage to stand up for ourselves and for our inner demons and say, "I am not failing, I am worth it, and my time will come." A friend (or even a stranger) to the dark thoughts to separate in your head from the realities and facts of the situation, ”wrote one user. "You don't fail, you try and it will pay off!"

"Stop! You are not a failure. You just described how much you mean to everyone who matters and how much you do for them! I can guarantee that no one will see you as a failure. In the past few years you may have." Lucky for you to get your first or second application and interview, but times have changed and they are difficult. You may need to submit 100, 200, 300, 400 before you can get the job you want! And that is not a reflection of you but just a simple reflection of the difficult times we are facing economically and socially, ”wrote another woman.

"It's not a failure, not in shape or shape anyway. It's just the timing. Please, please try to remake things in your head. Failure just eats you away and does you no good at all," said one other woman. "I know I beat myself up for years, but it didn't turn out good. It wasn't until I put the stick down that I finally felt happy again. There are a lot of people out there who beat you up, don't you on. "

"They've been out of work for a very short time and hardly anyone hires. When I was on vacation I was worried about layoffs, so I applied for a job and got no replies from some companies. It's easy to believe we did Problem, but we are not. Like you, I think I have been overqualified for some, and I also think there are some very lazy recruiters who make wrong assumptions, "commented another man." I think you are should step your internal critic into the next year and speak kindly about yourself. Look at all of your positive experiences. They are far from being a failure. Give yourself some credit. "

"Right now, however difficult the situation may be, you will get through this and when you do this you will have a whole different level of empathy (and learn a lot)!" another user wrote. "And as hard as it is, the trick is not to panic - and to be able to talk to people who let you focus on what you want ... I know, sometimes easier said as done. "

Employed or not, the pandemic is making many working parents feel like failures - unable to give anything for work or our families while sharing the same space. The physical and mental strain is crippling and there seems to be no end in sight. Finding a way to take care of yourself is critical during times like these, and these tips on finding joy in a global crisis could help. Stay strong mommies, you've made it this far.

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